where is the love?

Suppose I saw a picture of you, and in that picture I noticed you were doing something I didn't approve of, because I judged your actions to be "of the devil". Now, remember that I am supposed to care about you, so if I thought you were doing something dangerous to your soul, then out of love and concern, I should speak my concerns to you. That would be the appropriate course of action, if I loved you, whether my judgements were right or wrong.
But suppose, instead of coming to you with my concerns, I choose to go behind your back to your family and friends and tell them how disappointed I was in you, and how wrong your choices were? Indeed, what if I lectured / preached to all of the children in your family using you as an example of what not to do? What kind of person would that make me?

Go ahead and stick your head in the sand